Past Midlife - Now What?

You're 60... 65... 70+ and DONE using younger women's voice

You’ve been choosing yourself for a while. And now you find yourself in a new void.

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Yes, you’re choosing yourself, but for what?

You’re in a different room. The people in here are different. They look like you, talk like you and walk like you - and they have the same challenge: Midlife solutions aren’t cutting it anymore. Why? Because everything they say about midlife feels like something you’ve already been through. You’re leaving that behind.

Okay, let’s be fair. You’re still affected by your midlife learnings. You’re just done making the midlife decisions now, and you’re ready for new inner - and outter - growth.

Women who feel well past midlife don’t have many places to turn.

There just aren’t that many people out there who have something to offer to this group. 60 and 70 is the new 40 and 50. And what do we know about the 40s and 50s? That used to be the age when companies, bosses and different kinds of reqruiters looked at as DONE. Done being an asset in corp. Done being employable.

And frankly, it’s at that time WE as women actually want something else too. So we did that. We went all in. We didn’t even have that guidance, but we went ahead and did it anyway.

When I was 50, I quit my well-paid job as a Communication and PR Agent in corp. No security net. Then I purchased a one-way-ticket to Austin TX, bought a van and drove out into the desert for three months alone. THAT was mind-expanding!

After those three months, I settled in Encinitas CA, where I started my brand new business: Coaching & Coffee on the Beach. I LOVED it!!! After two years, I moved to Norway to paxck up and move to Encinitas. Two days after arriving in Oslo, however, I met the love of my life. And stayed here.

I took my business online.

I helped people discover their purpose. Raise their frequency using the Archetypes, which they by the way had to find themselves. None of my sentences start with “you are….!” Who you are and what you are good at - and which challenges you are going through? It’s up to you to discover and heal. I teach you how, though. And make it really easy for you. For this reason I don’t read your Human Design chart either.

Image of “younger me” in the back by CHatGPT

Now what?

We’ve quit corp. We’ve done the shift. We’re not done. We’re not stepping down. We are NOT pulling back. But what is that purpose we want to step into.

We’re trying to find new passions, a new purpose, our people inside spaces built for women 10 to 20 years younger, with a different agenda, different pressure, different pace. I honestly LOVE being in those spaces, and I’m not leaving them.

When the conversation about “this new cycle” is mostly led by women in their early 50s, though, it can feel like listening to a translation of the life you’ve already lived.

There’s a real discrepancy between the 50s and the 60s. It determines what you want, need and where you want to go from here. Time is less. You start to feel that og, maybe 20 more years, if I am lucky. It seriously shapes who you are willing to be and what you’re no longer willing to do.

So let’s look at this from a different angle

It’s no longer about age. It’s not about the midlife choices you have or have not made.
It’s about stepping into a different kind of authority. The Sage. The Visionary. The Elder. Oh please, let us take back that word: ELDER. It sounds so wise and insightful and somehting I have always had deep respect for. In tribes I have frequented - for instance the Maori tribe - the eldest woman speaks last. Nobody speaks when she has spoken. Sounds amazing, doesn’t it?

This is not the authority of titles.
Honestly, even in corp, I never had a title. Yeah, there IS such a thing as no titles when you’re someone like me. I never bothered, to be honest.

So it’s not about that. The titles. It’s more the authority of your experiences, the weight you’ve carried, the obstacles you overcame, the crisis you survived.

You’re no longer interested in repeating old lessons just to prove that you’re still “growing”. You’re interested in building from everything you’ve integrated. That’s a whole diffrent energy.

The 50s? Chiron?
Gave me the direction, the big layer of learning and growing in freedom from so many responsibilities.

The 60s? My Second Saturn Return?
It’s giving me a new depth - new composure, serentiy.
It’s sharpening my vision. Developing my insights.

In Human Design, we have cycles that describe the transitions we move through

Chiron is often talked about as the profound midlife cycle. Wisdom. Healing. Maturation. Legacy. We’re never done with Chiron. It’s a layer we need through the rest of our lives.

What’s interesting, is that when I read my Chiron chart for the first time, I could see how deeply I had lived it before I had any language for it. Before I knew in theory how it affected me, and I found myself nodding, and nodding and nodding.

Life added a layer to me long before I could name it. Quite cool, isn’t it?

From 2010 to 2019, I lived my Chiron. And looking back, I can clearly see the shift began right at the time that cycle began. That’s when I quit that job. Ended my relationship. Sold my house. My mother had just passed away after 15 years of terrible illness, and my son was an adult, leaving home. I changed everything!

However.
I’m not willing to stay in that midlife loop forever.
I’ve felt another shift after 2019. It’s been as profound and mindblowing as my Chiron cycle.

Second Saturn Return is lighting a new fire in me, where Chiron had me bored to my bones. And you know what’s strange? Chiron all of a sudden became more interesting in the light of Second Saturn Return.

It’s a rise. A rise in voice. A rise in clarity. A rise in relevance.

When I turned 60, a new voice was ringing through. An urge to stop trying to be smart. A need to say it as I see it. Not being so afraid of being a bit blunt. Without hurting poeple, of course. I wasn’t angry anymore, and chose my barricades more wisely.

If anyone calls me too much? I’d say that is pretty accurate.
We’re allowed to when we are the elders.

You know this, right? That elderhood has been markedet as

• slower

• softer

• smaller

• “making peace with less”

Yeah… we’re not there!

We have power. We don’t have to edit what we see as true anymore. We don’t have to be smooth to be accepted. Your voice has authority because you’re no longer trying to prove yourself.

You have a depth. An edge. A precision you did not have before.

If you feel that you’ve outgrown midlife. That you no longer speak with that voice. If you wonder what your purpose isnow, how you can put it to action? If you feel this, you’re not late. You’re on time.

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